You Shouldn’t Change Who You Are

One of the themes of the past decade has been the idea that “you shouldn’t change who you are and be yourself.” I don’t know exactly where I first heard or learned this, but I know it resonated with me.

“yeah, I can be myself.”


“hell no, I’m not changing for anyone.”


“I’m not going to be something I don’t want to be.”

This can be viewed as a negative because it’s an excuse not to improve and change.

Conflicting with Change

This conflicts with concept of change.  Losing weight, building strength and upgrading your life requires you to be change.  So depending on how you look at it, you can’t be yourself if you want to be better.

It wasn’t until I met Elliot Hulse. Well, I didn’t really meet him, I just started to watch a bunch of his videos.

His overarching theme was, “become the strongest version of yourself.”

Now that’s something I can get behind.  Be me, but stronger.

The strongest version.

So exactly what does that mean? In a nutshell, if you want to change your body, you have to change your mind.  If you don’t want to change the way you think, it’s very difficult to make a change in your body.

The Fact of the Matter

side note: I always make fun of my wife when she uses this phrase

Let’s say you weigh 210lbs and you want to weigh 170lbs, you have to think , act and be like you’re already 170lbs.  I know it’s easier said than done, but that’s the fact of the matter.  If you don’t change the way you think and somehow manage to lose the weight, you will just gain the weight back.

Because you just end up being a 210lbs person, who’s doing all the actions necessary to lose weight and get down to 170lbs, but if you don’t reprogram the weigh you think, you will never keep the weight off.

This applies to lifting heavy weights. You can’t hesitate with confidence. You can’t half ass  it. You can’t just say “just.”  When what we all really need is to view our problems, goals and dreams from another vantage point.