Ryan’s 12 Rules To Live By
How bad can it be?
I’m afraid to put this on paper…
But then I thought, what’s the worst thing that can happen?
In yesterday’s email I talked about how structure creates freedom. It may or may not be something you agree with (and trust me a part of me is still fighting idea).
But when it comes to disagreement, I make it a point to understand the intention behind it.
“We already have these rules, we just haven’t written them down.”
Then I heard Craig Ballantyne said this on the Sean Croxton’s Podcast.
We have rules we live by that we are conscious or unconscious about.
But then I thought.
Hey, I can change my mind, they’re my rules!
Seems simple and silly
Back in October I started writing some rules to live by myself that I never finished.
And I thought I’d share my unfinished and incomplete list.
When you really think about it, is the life we live ever really finished and complete?
This post is inspire by Craig Ballantyne’s 12 Rules I Live By.
I do not engage in confrontations with anyone, in-person or online. This is a waste of time and energy. If I have caused harm, I apologize and fix the situation. And then I take a deep breath, relax, breathe out, and re-focus my efforts back on my work and goals.
2.) Nothing Matters
I am guided by these two phrases:
a) “Nothing matters.” – I can only work towards the major, massive goals and my vision of helping others, while the opinions of others do not matter to my goals.
b) “It will all be over soon.”
3.) I will not be the person I don’t want to be.
I will refuse to be petty, jealous, resentful, envious, or give in to any other of those emotions. I will keep my cruel wit to myself, or use very sparingly. I will not gossip or speak badly of others no matter who I am with or what environment that I am in. I will view the world as half full. I will not hurt others, when it is possible to help.
I will know the temptations, situations and environments in life that I must avoid, and I will in fact, avoid them, even if it means loosening relationships with others who “live” in those environments. It’s my life and that matters more than what people think of me.
4.) The night before I will write the most important thing I need to do the next day
This is still hit and miss but it’s important that I mentally prepare my win for the next day.
5.) I will be be up no later than 6:30am
I simply get more done when I get up early.
6.) In bed at asleep before 11:30pm
My true target is by 10:30pm. Early bed and early to rise.
7.) I refuse to respond emotionally to things and get defensive
Whenever I feel defensive, I will take moment, take a deep breath before responding – or it’s best to not respond at all.
8.) I will lean into my fears
All the goals I want to achieve are outside of my comfort zone. So often, they are really far out of my comfort zone. Every time I feel fearful, I will question it and it will be my habit to lean into. I learned this from Sean Cooper.
9.) Seek first to Understand
Don’t judge a book by it’s cover. So much easier said than done. I have internal biases based on past experience and I will learn to doubt myself in a positive way. And when I do, I will question my pre-judgement.
10.) Self Doubt is a super power for me
The power of negative thinking. Negative thinking is a super power I’ve used against myself – why not turn my greatest weakness into a strength?
To be updated on the future..
Updated: 5/22/2016 10:57am